Considerations Related to ENM

Recently, when I was working with a couple who is thinking about whether ENM is a good fit for them, they asked what things they should be thinking about. This got me thinking about is important for individuals and couples to consider if they are considering ENM. This list of questions came into consideration for a couple who is monogamous and considering opening up their relationship, but I feel like the questions are important for anyone engaging in ENM to think about.  

What are my personal goals in a possible ENM relationship?

What are our goals as a couple in a possible ENM relationship?

What biases do I hold about ENM?

What am I excited about related to ENM?

What am I nervous about related to ENM?

What does jealousy look like for me?

How do I plan to communicate tough feelings with my partner?

What am I excited about for this journey for my partner? 

My intent with this list of questions was to help individuals and couples start a dialogue about the unique ENM journey.